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PRIMARY RELATIONSHIPS

What are your primary relationships?  It is important to identify them because they shape and mold our lives.  Our personal Rules of Life are discerned and framed within the context of our primary relationships. So, ask yourself…

How healthy are my relationships? With my parents? With my children? With my spouse? With my co-workers?

With God?

A Rule of Life enables us to evaluate our primary relationships to see if they are marked with love, honesty, integrity, listening, generosity, and gratitude. Are there any relationships in your life that need adjusting, tweaking, or repairing? May the prayer of St. Francis be your prayer today:

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.

Where there is injury, pardon.

Where there is doubt, faith.

Where there is despair, hope.

Where there is darkness, light.

Where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master,

grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;

to be understood, as to understand;

to be loved, as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive.

It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,

and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.

Amen. 

ROLES

Mother. Employee. Tenant. Brother. Servant. Friend. Wife. Teacher. Athlete. Painter. Philanthropist. Executive. Husband. Daughter. Lover. Volunteer. Blogger. Student. Businessperson.

The roles that we occupy are many.  Honestly, most of us probably occupy too many roles. Some by necessity; others by choice. And beyond that, these roles are incredibly complex as they consist of multiple layers. Some roles are what might be called       ‘life-giving.’ They are ones that bring pleasure, fulfillment, and great joy into our lives. Other roles may be draining…feeling as though some of our best hours are given to roles that sap us of joy or, more troubling yet, bring out the worst in us.

What roles are you currently stewarding? And how well are you stewarding them? It’s easy for us to become overwhelmed with the six, eight, ten, twenty-two roles that we carry out in our lives. For you, maybe it’s time that you explore your roles and how many the Lord would have you steward. Are there any that you can be released of? If you constantly feel defeated and like you are failing in a number of your roles, responsibilities and relationships, it may be time to let some of them go.

Let us remember that our first and primary role is to be a follower of Christ—and live fully in our identity as a chosen, beloved, redeemed, and treasured son or daughter of our Heavenly Father. We often forget that our primary responsibility is to grow in intimacy with God the Father, Christ the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Let us nurture and foster that which is the most important.

So, how many roles should one occupy? Better yet….how man roles should you occupy? Inquire of the Lord and see what you discover.